You may hear people say that the world is full of opportunities, and while there’s is no doubt that success is discovered by those who pursue it, many times we find ourselves taking on too much in a small amount of time. Whether your stress comes from money, family, work, or anything else life has given you; it can come to be a constant struggle to decide how many tasks you can actually fit on your plate. When starting your own business, you can find it may become even harder. While everyone’s time is spent differently, we are all given 24 hours in a single day. So why is it that some people seem to have their businesses and their lives under control while the rest of us struggle to keep up the pace? This question reflects a problem that causes the latter to stay up late at night pondering… “what do I do when life throws too much at me at once.”
It is Alright to Say NO to Others, and Yourself
As people, we subconsciously want to be the best: the best at our profession, the best friend to those we care about, and the best depiction of ourselves to which we hope others can look up to. The truth though is that while we strive so hard to hold value to our character, if we CONSTANTLY agree to EVERYTHING asked of us, we’ll sooner or later run into a situation in which we will be unable to keep our promises. It is understandable to want to help out a friend in need or to step up to the plate when a client asks for a task to be done, but if we stretch ourselves too thin by taking on more than we can handle; not only will it result in the job not getting done, but it will also leave us looking unreliable. Always remember you have the option to say NO or to admit that you are unable to do something. If I had to ask a favor of one of my friends, I would be much more understanding to hear them admit that they were unable to do it, rather than have them agree to it and then not have it get done.
The same concept applies to business. Take consumer reviews for example; while it is true that turning down a customer or client may prevent you from doing business with them in the future, the truth is that the rest of the world wont be as influenced by that misfortune. Very rarely will your business be reviewed badly by that client (if reviewed at all) for simply turning down their request. It is when we accept a request and deliver poorly that we run the chance of receiving a bad review and can cause a bad reputation for ourselves and our business. Remember that we are merely human and we are only capable of so much. Pretending to be proficient at everything asked of us is simply a lie we tell ourselves time and time again and it is a lie that can hurt our credibility in the long run.
When in Doubt, Ask for Guidance
Going along with the previous advice, don’t feel like that weigh on your shoulders is yours alone. Many aspects of life require us to ASK for the help of others, and while they are just as entitled to say no as you are, in many cases you’ll find that they are more than willing to lend that helping hand as long as you don’t abuse their generosity. Whether you need help from a friend or even a mentor; it is not only wise to ask for help or advice, but it is also healthy in your relationship to do so. Like I said before, we as humans want to strive to be the best; to be the go-to when times get tough. That’s why asking someone for one’s help can many times be a true compliment to their expertise and experience.
In the world of business for example, it is likely that people got to where they are by learning from those who came before them. Having a mentor is an essential part of building a successful company or career. I know first hand how hard it can be; the work load can seem to pile up over time and you start to feel like your ambitions are starting to get out weighed by your regret for ever wanting to embark on becoming an entrepreneur. I found that learning from others’ experiences is a crucial element in creating an empire. It doesn’t need to be as formal as many make it out to be either. Casually asking for the opinion of someone already experienced is a great step towards bettering yourself and relieving some of the burdens that are overwhelming you. Whether it be a role model of yours, a parent, or a friend; “two heads are better than one” serves as a friendly reminder that not all great things can be built alone.
Learn to Take Your Workload in Portions
Much like a successful diet, limiting your intake — how much you take on — is important if you want to prevent overwhelming yourself. Picture tasks as calories; limit yourself to a healthy amount. If you want to succeed in accomplishing your goals, you first have to know how many things you are capable of doing at one time. This is where many people starting a business end up fumbling plans that they’ve made. They want to set everything up all at once and soon find that they have bit off more than they can chew. Like I’ve said in previous articles, if you spread your efforts out to too many things at once, you will most likely end up neglecting one or more of your ideas. If you want to become an affiliate marketer for example, you shouldn’t also try to start up an eCommerce store at the same time. Though incorporating different ideas together is a great long term goal, it is one that should be properly planned and each aspect of it should be given the attention it deserves before adding more onto it. I know you want to conquer ALL your competition, but you will never succeed if you choose to fight so many battles at once.
Don’t Let the Fear of Failure Intimidate You
What makes many of us feel overwhelmed is believing that there’s a chance that we may fail, and while I hate to be the bearer of bad news, chances are we are going to fail at least once. But who says failure is ONLY a bad thing? The truth is that failure can be the most rewarding form of knowledge for us as people because we can learn what we did wrong and do it differently next time. Not every success story saw it’s glory in the first chapter. Many accomplished entrepreneurs started in businesses irrelevant to where they ended up finding their calling. Idea after idea, they would try and they would fail. What made them survive to finally see success? The ability to not let failure define them. What many of us don’t realize is that FAILURE IS NOT PERMANENT; only once you decide to give up on trying, is it written in stone. Not every idea of yours is going to be a good idea, but you won’t know that until you first attempt it. The best way to avoid the fear of failure is to first set up your safety net, that way if you do find that a business idea or an investment is failing, you’ll be able to fall back and reevaluate the situation without completely screwing yourself over. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t take chances, after all, any reward worth pursuing is going to come with it’s share of risks; but always have a “Plan B” in case things might go south.
When All Else Fails, Hit the Pause Button
If after all of those other suggestions fail and you still feel like you’re holding the weight of the world on your shoulders, then maybe it’s time to plan a holiday. Vacations and even stay-cations can be just the trick to reset your mind back to it’s productive state. By taking the time to relax, you may be able return to your work with a fresh point of view. As people with ability to feel emotion, we can sometimes be blinded by the negative ones resulting in many of us overthinking or even dreading the tasks that we lay out in front of ourselves. I too know the worry of trying to get everything done. In many cases, a vacation may seem like the worst idea when you’re already up to your neck in work, but even though it may seem like the earth is rotating at a million miles an hour, the fact remains that you need to take time to recoup yourself as well. I am not suggesting that you take a year break or abandon your work, I am simply suggesting that a few days away from if all may just be what the doctor ordered.
I hope you can find the strength in overcoming your burdens and I hope your feeling of being overwhelmed is just temporary. Though my main focus of this article is for those in a business setting, these are ideas that I believe can apply to anyone. Build onto them, learn from them, and remember to always check back at The Passive Incomer for more information on your business, your money, and your life.
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